I think we can say most young people have a defining moment in life realizing that it’s time to get serious about life and grow up. The reason I say most is that that did not happen to me, although I felt grown enough to have a daughter!!!
Anywho, this is a process of spiritual, physical, social, financial, and spiritual awakening and it all happened in my 40’s.
This moment could be brought on by a challenge, a failure, a life struggle, or any other thing. It’s different for everyone but it’s unmistakable when it happens to you.
How do you go about making this change in your life? Especially if you have spent most of your life up to this point living with family, without full responsibility for yourself, or even being watched over by parents? It’s not as complicated as we make it. Start where you are no matter what your situation is and where you are in life!
Self-Development Is A Thing
Part of growing up is self-development. Mastering oneself and being able to care for oneself is just the tip of the iceberg. Becoming your ultimate self is a big part of personal development.
“Self-actualization, in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, is the highest level of psychological development where the “actualization” of full personal potential is achieved, which occurs usually after basic bodily and ego needs have been fulfilled” (Wikipedia).
Yes, now you are at the age where no one is going to do it for you, nag you until you do the work, or push you unless you have some sort of mental disorder like me, I have ADHD.
Although most people mature to the “It’s up to you to push yourself and work on personal growth” It is a hard and sometimes impossible task for ADHD people to ever reach this level but when and if we do it’s an empowering and exciting experience to explore yourself and grow.
All The Feels
Learning to handle problems with grace, manage emotions, and control anxiety and stress are all part of growing up. Emotional regulation and emotional intelligence are critical skills in adulthood that ADHD people lack without medication or some sort of help.
Add to that being able to effectively communicate your feelings assertively. Much of this is learned from experience. Learning to think before you speak and react to stressful situations calmly is a huge level up in life (which I wish I had mastered at a young age).
Let’s Be Honest
Part of being an adult is being honest. Sometimes that is easy. Sometimes that is gut-wrenchingly hard. Maturity brings the discipline to stay true to your morals and values and part of that is being a truthful honest person. Add in the idea of trustworthy-ness. Being trustworthy means you do what you say you will, that you are reliable, and do the right thing even when no one is watching.
It’s Your Responsibility
Another aspect of maturity and personal growth is being responsible. Reliability and responsibility are the pillars of adulthood yet very hard for most people. You need to be able to be counted on and many people fail. You don’t have to be a natural at reliability. Use tools while you get into the swing of things. Use calendars, planners, and reminders to ease the transition. Do what you say you will do and don’t promise what you can’t deliver.
Care about people. Be thankful. Be grateful. No this is not the inside of a greeting card. It’s simple advice for personal growth. Learning to realize that no man (or woman) is an island is part of growing up.
Being independent means many things for many people. Having a job or paying bills can be independent. Grocery shopping and cooking can be a part of independence. Whatever life asks of you; maturity will help you in handling the tasks that come your way. Think of adulthood and growing up as handling business. Yeah!
Whatever comes your way you are capable of rising to the task at hand. Don’t wait. Rise up to the challenges of your personal growth. Life is an adventure and you are ready, if not hang in and hang on…you will eventually get there…
I am and it has taken me 40 years